Divorce is hard, and often involves bitterness, anger and pain. Sometimes, the stress of the legal process mixed with these feelings results in negative behaviors that can greatly impact divorce proceedings. It’s critical for both you and your spouse to notice these behaviors and control them to ensure you reach the best outcome possible.
5 Behaviors You Should Avoid During Your Divorce
1. Refusing to Communicate
Although it’s natural to want to avoid painful situations, you must communicate with your spouse and your attorney. If you don’t, you run the risk of lengthening your divorce proceedings.
For effective communication during a divorce, it’s best to discuss expectations. How does each of you wish to receive correspondence? Will your attorney communicate on your behalf? Answering questions like these will keep communication lines open while creating space between you both.
2. Fighting Over Small Pieces of Personal Property
Although there are pieces of personal property such as family heirlooms that may mean a lot to you, be prepared to negotiate. Even the least expensive object can cost thousands of dollars if you continue to fight. Remember to look at the bigger picture and consider whether or not it’s worth the emotional and financial struggle to continue.
3. Speaking Negatively Near Your Children
Children, especially those who are young, may find it difficult to deal with your divorce. You shouldn’t complicate the process by speaking negatively about your spouse in front of them. Instead, if you feel the need to vent, reach out to a therapist, trusted family member or friend. Be honest with your children by explaining what’s happening around them, all while continuing to show respect for your spouse.
4. Ignoring Your Need for a Post-Divorce Plan
Life changes after a divorce. You don’t have to go in blind. Create a post-divorce plan so you know what to expect. If you have children, you’ll create a parenting plan that outlines who has custody during vacations, holidays and more. Consider expanding the initial plan to consider what things might look like as your children grow.
Also take time to consider your finances. Outline how you plan to support yourself after your divorce is final, if applicable. Take stock of your current liabilities and make any necessary changes that may cause financial distress.
5. Attempting to Handle the Divorce Alone
Divorces are often complicated processes that require in-depth knowledge of the law. You shouldn’t handle your divorce on your own. From the division of your assets to protecting your parenting rights, an experienced family law attorney can help guide you through.
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