Starting Over After A Divorce

People who have been through a divorce will tell you that it is one of the most stressful time periods in their lives. The stress starts before one of you files for divorce and lasts for months after you settle into your new routine.
Eventually, you sort through and divide your property, settle the debts you incurred while married and adjust to the custody schedule smoothly. But many divorced people continue to struggle with the memories of the past and moving forward emotionally. That’s where a support team can truly help you transition from your old married life to your new life—whatever you choose to make of it.

Lean on Your Divorce Team for Help

During the divorce process, it can be difficult to believe that you’ll ever be happy again or be able to dream about a different path for your life. But you can. With the right team of people supporting you, you’ll find your happiness again.
Your divorce attorneys are one important part of the team you need to take care of the legal requirements and protect your rights. Here are some other people you need to include on “Team You,” as well as some suggestions for taking action:

  • Allow yourself some time to work through everything. Take the time you need to heal and set some small goals to meet so that you move toward healing.
  • Acknowledge that you’ll have ups and downs. Every day will be different but eventually, you’ll have more good days, than bad.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are not a failure and don’t let anyone tell you that you are or that you didn’t try hard enough or long enough. Most people do not make this decision lightly. People who criticize you have no idea how difficult this is.
  • Make new memories. Whether you’ve been married for one year or 20, you made a lot of memories while you were married and dating. It can be hard to rely only on those memories as you move forward. So, make new memories, create new traditions and dream new dreams that will make you happy.
  • Surround yourself with good friends. Everyone worries about being a burden to their friends. While you do have to be considerate, most friends genuinely want to be there for you. They know that they can help the most by listening to you and supporting you until you are strong again.
  • Add your family doctor and a good therapist to your recovery team, too. Your doctor will encourage you to take good care of yourself. Pay attention to your own health needs: take medications as prescribed, use alcohol in moderation and not as an escape, get out of bed every day, go to work and do your best to function at your job. See your therapist as much as you need. Your friends may be good listeners, but your therapist can help you work through the roadblocks.

Reach Out to our Experienced and Compassionate Divorce Attorneys

Contact our family law attorney to learn about your options when going through a divorce. We’ll help you build a team that supports you through the process from start to finish. Experience plus respected legal knowledge: We will see you through.