Hostility & Defensiveness: Divorcing a Spouse With Paranoid Personality Disorder
Accusations. Hostility. Defensiveness. Paranoia. These are all attributes of an individual with paranoid personality disorder. Often, these individuals think the world is “out to get them” and as a result, they question everyone, including their spouse. Divorcing a spouse with paranoid personality disorder is challenging, but it can be done if you know what to expect.
What Does Paranoid Personality Disorder Look Like?
The most common characteristic of paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is paranoia, which is an unrealistic lack of trust in others. This paranoia may also lead the individual to believe they are in harm’s way or being purposefully hurt by those around them.
Individuals with a paranoia disorder have other telltale symptoms as well. For example, they may refuse to give out their personal information for fear of it being used against them. Or they may think someone is talking about them if they happen to glance in their direction.
You may notice your spouse accusing you of infidelity or doing things to intentionally hurt them. Your spouse might be hostile and argumentative, believing they are always right. If this sounds like your situation, it might be due to a paranoia disorder.
What to Expect When Divorcing a Paranoid Spouse
Divorces involving a spouse with a paranoia disorder often end up in court. After all, a divorce is a high-stress situation, which can exasperate the disorder.
During your divorce, your spouse may hide things, such as financial documents and assets, due to mistrust. They’ll often try to conceal items simply because they don’t trust the process. For this reason, we recommend documenting assets and finances before beginning the divorce process.
Accusations of Abuse
It’s also common to see a paranoid spouse accuse the other of abuse that didn’t occur. A skilled attorney will do their best to alleviate these accusations, including hiring investigators and seeking out reliable witnesses on your behalf.
Reluctancy to Negotiate
An individual with a paranoia disorder will be reluctant to negotiate. After all, they’re often stubborn, aggressive, and willing to fight tooth-and-nail for their own needs. An attorney will focus on your needs and fight for your rights on your behalf.