Sociopath Personality Disorder
A Challenging Divorce: “Help, My Spouse is a Sociopath!”
It can be hard to admit that you are in a relationship with someone with a severe personality disorder, but you’ve seen the signs of antisocial personality disorder for years. You just didn’t know there was a name for sociopath personality disorder.
They were charming, intelligent, confident and in charge. It’s no wonder you fell in love. But once they had you, of course, the storybook romance quickly became a nightmare. Now you’re struggling to figure out how to get out of this marriage. You may even be fearing for your life.
Divorcing a sociopath is not easy but you have already shown great resilience in order to arrive at this point. Give yourself credit and know that you CAN break free from the manipulation, mind games, and abuse. I can help.
I’m Wayne Ward, a divorce lawyer and a board certified specialist in family law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. I have 30 plus years of experience handling challenging divorce cases. I’ve helped many a long-suffering spouse on the journey to freedom with a divorce decree in hand. Call me at 817-789-4436.
Antisocial Personality Disorder
It’s important that you understand how your spouse’s antisocial personality disorder will influence your divorce. First off, you need to know what to expect, and then you can work with me to develop a strategy.
Sociopaths do not have a sense of right and wrong and do not feel guilt, so they are free to act abominably. But they do understand the power of the police and the courts to take away their assets and their freedom. You need to make it easy for the system to work for you by gathering information to build your case.
Understand that your spouse doesn’t care about your feelings or the feelings of your children. They don’t have the ability to have empathy. It’s as simple as that. While it may be hard for you, you need to stop caring about their feelings and pay more attention to your own.
Don’t be surprised if your sociopath spouse:
- Becomes even more threatening and abusive
- Prevents you from getting what you need. Your spouse may find it perfectly acceptable to hide or steal assets, or even to destroy property if it means you won’t get it in the property division.
- Refuses to negotiate and forces you to go to court
- Plays mind games with you and purposefully chooses to antagonize you
To Divorce a Sociopath You Need Divorce Preplanning, Strict Boundaries, and Strong Legal Representation
Pre-planning for a divorce is always wise, but in your case, it’s essential. You will need a safety plan and documentation to support property division and child custody. If possible, start gathering documents before you even mention divorce to your spouse. Call my office to talk about the kind of information you will need.
When we meet, we can review a plan to help you get through this difficult divorce.
- We start with a realistic assessment of your case. We will prepare you to go to trial.
- We will keep in close contact. In very volatile cases, we meet with our clients weekly or biweekly so we can stay on top of problems as they develop.
- We prepare for lies and manipulation by helping you document, document, document! And we’ll hire an investigator, if we need to, to gather the evidence for court.
- We will support you through this process. We want you and your children to be safe.
- We will be smart and strategic with your money, so you are putting your resources where they are most likely to get important results.
- We will not hesitate to file a restraining order or contempt action.
Take Your Safety Seriously
Because your spouse has no understanding of right or wrong, emotional abuse and physical violence can escalate quickly. Before you actually leave you need a plan for your physical safety that includes supportive people and safe spaces.
If you’ve been married for a while, you may have become numb to the dangers you face. You may not take action as quickly as you should. I spend time helping my clients understand the cycle of violence and learn more about what they can do to protect themselves. I also help clients secure restraining orders.
The game never ends for a sociopath, particularly if you have shared child custody. It may be hard, but you need to keep strong boundaries and limit communication. You may need to insist upon written communication only, and if it gets particularly bad, involve your lawyer again. If your ex-spouse violates the order, we will file a contempt action.
Call a Divorce Lawyer Experienced with Challenging Sociopath Divorces
No matter how complex your divorce, you can count on me as your lawyer to stand by your side. Call 817-789-4436 or contact my office online to arrange a consultation on how best to divorce a spouse with a sociopath personality disorder.